Excerpt from my upcoming book: “Awakening To Love"
There are not many who love perfectly. To love perfectly is to know perfectly and in knowing perfectly one knows that all are worthy of perfect love. Perfect love is love without conditions. Perfect love is accepting what is not (the false-self) while holding to the truth of who one is (as the God-self). Perfect love does not need for one to act in a certain way, that is to say, as ‘I’ would have them act, as ‘I’ would have them think, or as ‘I’ would have them believe. Therefore we do not love perfectly because we do not count others worthy of perfect love. We seek them to be who we want them to be ‘for our safety’, that is to say to make us feel secure. The greater truth is we do not love others perfectly because we do not count ‘ourselves’ worthy of perfect love and so we project this untruth outwardly, not perceiving that it is actually rooted in us. Our error is that we do not perceive the oneness of all life. That all are just different manifestations of the One Life and so to see another is to see my very self in another form. To know who we are is to know we can be worthy of nothing less than perfect love. It is the very essence of who we are. To not love or to love with conditions is to not know who you are and if you do not know who you are, you can never know who another is. This is true for even the greatest of love relationships such as the parent/child relationship. If the parent should see themselves imperfectly they can never see their child perfectly because they will see all of life through a lens of imperfection. It will be impossible to truly know their child because they do not know themselves, thus they can never know or have perfect love. This is the disease of man’s society. It is a society of imperfect lovers where a great majority do not know themselves and so each day, each minute a new life form is birthed into the earth which will perpetuate this cycle of the inept power of imperfect love, rooted in ignorance.
It can be said that imperfect love is really no love at all. If I do not know who I am and I see you through this prism of ignorance then even when I say “I love you” what am I loving but a false image of who you are. I am not really loving ‘you’ but the ‘idol’ I have made of who you are but that in reality is not according to truth. So then for the parent/child relationship if the parent does not see themselves correctly they will teach the child not to see themselves correctly for the impressionable child will grow up believing as the parent believes. They will call themselves what the parent calls them and because they will very likely be raised, influenced by society’s ignorance, the world will serve to affirm this error. So then to say I love myself when I do not even ‘know’ myself what am I loving but some image I believe myself to be that I am not? I am loving a lie and yet because my concept of love is a false concept, what I am really saying is that I love my false concept of self with a false concept of love. This is madness in all it’s many colors. We call love what is not love and then apply it to that which is not true - a false image of ourselves or another. Love is eternal, it is unchanging. We know our false concept of love is not really love because our love is temporal, based on conditions favorable to us, and is therefore ever changing.
I believe a greater truth is that man does not see himself correctly because he does not want to see himself correctly. Man will read Paul’s writings on love in I Corinthians 13, agree with it, and yet know there is a disconnect between what he calls love and what love truly is, yet man will still call his error truth. In other words he will know that what he calls love is not and yet he will still call it love. This to is evidence of man’s madness. He would rather his false belief be shown ductile then to embrace truth and seek to make it real in his life. This can only suggest that he does not want to see. He knows (from I Cor. 13) that he does not suffer long, his kindness is capricious, there is envy, impatience, jealousy, pride, arrogant displays, conceit, rudeness, selfishness, over sensitivity, unhealthy worry, condemnation, unforgiveness, judgment, holding of guilt, unbelief, lack of trust, unrighteousness, and rejoicing when others are proven wrong and he right, etc; and he will recognize this in himself, toward himself and others and yet still call this love. If any of these things are present at any time towards self or others then it is more truthful to say ‘sometimes I love you and sometimes I do not’ then to call both ‘that which is not love and that which is love’ - love. Is it convenient to say that incomplete love is still love? If so by what measurement is it measured? If I love for nine hours a day but do not love for the other fifteen is it still true to make a blanket statement of “I love you” toward self or others? Incomplete love and imperfect love is no love at all for this that is called love is unstable, erratic, mendacious and so is prone to weaken and breakdown but perfect love never fails. Love, by it very nature is complete and perfect. Imperfect love is an oxymoron, this not not what love is......”